Lindy is a dear friend of TLH. She is a sage and wise lady, and dancers often approach her to ask for advice, so she’s decided to start posting letters and her replies here for everyone to see and share.
As an avid dancer, Lindy can both lead and follow, giving her special insight into either role. She’s a sweet old dear and cares for all dancers – so she always tries to see both sides of a problem when offering advice. But don’t let her sweetness fool you! She’s sharp as a tack and she won’t be taking any nonsense either – she’ll let you know what’s on her mind if she thinks you’ve gone astray.
Have your own question or quandary that you’d like to ask Lindy about? Email her at:
DearLindy@torontolindyhop.ca
Dancers Just Want to Have Fun
Dear Lindy,
I am shy. I am more likely than not to either receive dance invitations or make eye contact with friends before approaching one for a dance. There are people I enjoyed dancing with a year or two ago. All seemed well & friendly to me, and, with one, we exchanged some feedback on dance technique that I’ve been working on through the interim. They appear to continue to enjoy social dancing.
I find they turn away whenever I build up my courage to approach (e.g. for water, a rest, or to strike up a conversation with a friend). I haven’t been near enough to offend them through poor dancing in many months, and we still say polite hellos by name in passing. Once or twice in a night my timing could be that poor. But to miss on every approach to dance a new song, every week? I suppose I either offend or intimidate. I do not want to ‘trap’ anyone into dancing but would like to know how I can change.
How, dear Lindy, can I make myself more approachable?
Hi there! I have passed on your email to “Dear Lindy”. Stay tuned.